Attachment Issues
Transform how you connect with others and build the healthy, secure relationships you've always wanted.
Attachment styles are patterns of bonding we learn early in life, shaping how we connect, trust, and relate to others as adults. These patterns develop from the type of caregiving we received—how consistently our caregivers responded, how safe we felt, and whether we were soothed or left to manage big emotions on our own.
At the core of attachment theory is the idea that every child needs a secure base: a dependable, emotionally attuned caregiver who provides safety, comfort, and support. When that base feels reliable, we learn that relationships are safe and that others can be trusted. When that base feels unpredictable, overwhelming, or emotionally distant, our nervous system adapts in ways that carry into adulthood.
These early experiences form the blueprint for how we show up in relationships. They influence the expectations we bring into love, how we handle conflict, how we ask for reassurance, and how vulnerable we allow ourselves to be.
Common attachment styles include:
Secure — feeling safe with closeness and independence
Anxious — craving connection but fearing abandonment or rejection
Avoidant — needing space, distancing from emotions, or fearing too much closeness
Disorganized / Fearful-Avoidant — both wanting intimacy and fearing it, often tied to trauma or inconsistent caregiving
While these patterns originate in childhood, they often remain stable into adulthood—especially in romantic relationships—until we consciously work to understand and shift them.
The good news… attachment styles are changeable. With the right insight and support, you can learn to build healthier patterns, communicate your needs, and create secure, grounded relationships.
If you’re curious about your attachment style or noticing patterns in your relationships that feel familiar, we’re here to help. We work with clients in Mooresville, Troutman, Statesville and the Charlotte, NC area to explore their attachment styles and how they may be impacting the ways they love, connect, and relate to others.